America’s ‘highest-paid sex worker’ spills
AMERICAâ€™S â€œhighest-earning sex workerâ€? has opened up about life inside one of the countryâ€™s most famous brothels, describing herself as a combination of â€œpsychologist, relationship coach and sexpert all rolled into oneâ€?.
Writing in SheKnows, Alice Little, who works at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch in Nevada â€" the only state in the US to allow legal prostitution â€" said sex work was â€œstigmatising, degrading, difficult and the best thing Iâ€™ve ever done with my lifeâ€?.
â€œImagine youâ€™re standing in line, shoulder to shoulder, alongside 20 or more incredibly beautiful women, all vying to be â€˜chosenâ€™ by the same man,â€? she said. â€œStressful, right? Now, picture doing that 12 to 14 hours a day, five days a week. In a nutshell, thatâ€™s my job.â€?
Ms Little, who holds multiple degrees and got into sex work two years ago after finding traditional work â€œuninterestingâ€?, said she spent her downtime educating herself about human sexuality, psychology and sociology.
â€œBooks, lectures, online videos â€" anything I can get my hands on,â€? she said. â€œThis knowledge bank has become my lifeline when figuring out how to navigate the masses.â€?
She starts her day at 7am with an hour-long workout, before beginning the â€œdaily ritual of putting on my war paintâ€?.
â€œWhile Iâ€™m perfecting my mascara, Iâ€™ll visualise the day ahead,â€? she said. â€œDo I have any appointments? Am I working floor traffic today? What are my goals? This internal dialogue continues through my 10-minute drive to work.â€?
Sex workers at the Bunny Ranch are independent contractors, able to set their own rates and decorate their suite how they like â€" Ms Little said for her, that meant a coffee station â€" but also have to buy their own supplies. Ms Little said she spends $US2500 ($3176) a year on condoms and lube.
â€œWhen the bell rings, it means we have guests wanting a â€˜line-upâ€™,â€? she said. â€œWe smile, say our names and try not to wiggle â€" itâ€™s considered disrespectful to the other ladies and is a form of what we call â€˜dirty hustlingâ€™.
â€œThe guest then walks up to the lady of his choosing and she takes him on a tour of the property. They finish the tour back in the ladyâ€™s suite, where they negotiate. Personally, I hate that word: I always consider it to be more of a conversation.
â€œAt this time we review what activities theyâ€™d like to try, experiences theyâ€™re interested in, and discuss any fantasies or bucket list items. We then settle on a price and proceed to the office to book the party.â€?
She added that while â€œyou may assume my job is primarily about sexâ€?, that â€œcouldnâ€™t be further from the truthâ€?.
â€œSex is assumed â€" itâ€™s already on the table,â€? she said. â€œWhat Iâ€™m really selling is intimacy.
â€œI spend intimate time with men, couples, single women, divorcees, virgins, kinksters and widows: There isnâ€™t just one type of person that sees sex workers. In that same vein, there isnâ€™t one type of person that becomes a sex worker.
â€œMy colleagues are retired servicewomen, grad students, mothers, doctoral candidates and more. We are an incredibly diverse group of ladies with one commonality â€" a genuine passion for intimacy.â€?
She described sex work as a â€œpublic serviceâ€?, but one that not everyone in society was comfortable with.
â€œIntimacy is a crucial element of health and wellness,â€? she said. â€œIt affects our physical, mental and emotional health in tangible ways. Much like petting a cat can lower your blood pressure, so too can a quality hug.
â€œWith this concept in mind, itâ€™s no wonder there are a vast number of reasons people patronise sex workers. Their spouses may have died, or theyâ€™ve yet to have a sexual encounter with a woman.
â€œSometimes itâ€™s a couple seeking their first threesome or a gentleman with autism wanting to have a â€˜practice dateâ€™ so they feel more confident in their skills.â€?